Many high-achieving adults notice that old attachment wounds show up most in moments of dating, conflict, uncertainty, or when they want connection but aren't sure how to get there. You might find yourself overthinking, worrying about saying the wrong thing, or feeling the pressure to "get it right" when it feels like there's emotional stakes at hand.
These patterns often come from childhood environments where emotional attunement was inconsistent, expectations were high, or you learned early to minimize your needs to keep the peace. As adults, similar beliefs get activated: I need to perform to be loved. I'm too much. I can't depend on anyone.
This is work I understand both clinically and from my own experience.
I've worked extensively with clients navigating the intersection of cultural expectations and attachment patterns. Many grew up in immigrant households where emotional expression was discouraged, love was shown through sacrifice rather than words, and vulnerability felt dangerous. These early experiences shape how we show up in relationships as adults.
Common Areas I Support
- Feeling pressure to "get it right" in dating or relationships
- Attracting avoidant or emotionally unavailable partners
- Falling into familiar relationship patterns despite wanting something secure
- Difficulty expressing needs without guilt or fear of judgment
- Worrying constantly about what the other person is feeling
In our work together, we explore how these early dynamics shaped the way you think, feel, and relate. We work on rebuilding self-worth, strengthening boundaries, and creating healthier ways of connecting with yourself and others.